Updated: Dec 16, 2020
In our society we deem vulnerability as a weakness but I believe this to be the furthest thing from the truth.
1. the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
Yes, the dictionary defines vulnerability as being exposed to the possibility of being harmed, however we have evolved from savages that are no longer fighting for survival in the literal sense. We don’t need to hunt for our food or run away from our predators on a daily basis. So, the old mindset that being strong is a strength and being vulnerable is a weakness is outdated, in my opinion. When we become confident within ourselves and own our stories there is a power that ignites.
Take back your power
You take back your power when you own your life story, through all the flaws and mistakes. You can hold your head high knowing you were in a learning and training phase in your life and that we all make mistakes. It’s not how we fall but it’s how we recover that shows the true character of us. Plus, everyone loves a good comeback story! We live in a society that spends so much time hiding and covering up transgressions that to own up to them and take responsibility means that others will look down upon you.
Therefore, continuing the vicious cycle of no one speaking their truth. In order to break this cycle and be proud of what you’ve been through, where you have come from and what has occurred that has enabled you to be the person you are today, we have to first acknowledge, to ourselves, everything that has happened in our pasts.
“It’s through your ability to become vulnerable towards yourself that will open up the possibilities to stand strong in your past mistakes and own them as your learnings.”
This is where being vulnerable with yourself comes into play. Before you can be confidently vulnerable to the world, we have to first begin with being comfortable enough within ourselves to speak our truth, to forgive yourself from past mistakes and act with compassion knowing that when you know better you do better. Allowing yourself to be kind and careful with your heart as you go through your timeline and forgive your younger self. Once your forgiveness is complete you may start to notice the links that have led you to where you stand today. Perhaps being fired from a previous job showed you how valuable your time and energy is and you changed careers to something that you really loved. Or a few bad decisions brought you to a place of self-discovery.
There are so many lessons to be learnt, and by reflecting back on your life you are able to pick up on patterns, ones you’d like to keep and also those you are wanting to stop dead in their tracks. As you get to know yourself on a profoundly deep level, you will commence the process of self-love through compassion and growth. It’s through your ability to become vulnerable towards yourself that will open up the possibilities to stand strong in your past mistakes and own them as your learnings. No person will ever be able to use these against you if you own them proudly. As they have made you into the wonderful person you are right now in this very moment.
"You are powerful in your ability to be vulnerable, knowing that you are strong and can handle any situation thrown at you."
Tell your own story
You have a gift - your story. It is unique and beautiful just as you are. It is your power to own it and share it with the world. You will find more people that resonate with your story and you will create bonds with people you never knew before. There is strength in vulnerability, as you are showing to yourself, first and foremost, but also to the world that you are strong enough in your self-love, self-care and self-worth to not allow others to tell your story for you.
You are powerful in your ability to be vulnerable, knowing that you are strong and can handle any situation thrown at you. You know your strengths and are continuously evolving into the potential you know you will be.